GRIP + RUBBER DILEMMA

I need help!!!
Please bare with my story . . . my explaination . . .

I've been playing a long time and learned in my basement in NYC. There was no room. I had to play close to the table. My Dad was a sporting goods sales rep and got me the best Butterfly paddle at that time. It was hard to control the ball. I compensated by using a hybrid shakehand grip like a Seemiller. I do a V with my thumb and index finger on the back of the bat and push, block, brush sideways, and smash . . . all with one side. Up close I'm able to play really fast and cover mostly well, but inch by inch off the table my reach limitated becomes obvious. I can't bend my wrist enough to grab the corner to my BH like a typical shakehand player could; however, I have no crossover problem. I can take a shot hit right at my belly and push it over the net with good placement. I entered some tournaments, but never got past intermediate level. I couldn't handle the spinny stuff coming from the penholders who played mid or back. I later moved to China and began to beat some of those guys, but the smart players could force me to cover my weak far left then burn me on the far right-FH. I used PF4-1 for years, but got shamed into "upgrading" to more pro-like stuff. Well, I've been using H2, and although I can loop it better and whack it faster, I don't "feel" it anymore. Forgive the comparison, but it's a lot like the problem with the other kind of rubber . . . too thick and I can't feel a thing. :-). Also, I don't have enough control. Players have trouble with my stuff, but it's any guess where my placement will be. I'm just happy if I get it on the table. Anyway, now I'm trying G-666, The Looper, H3, C7 Long Pips, TG2+3 . . . basically anything from DHS to find what rubber is best for me. I know many people don't like DHS and/or think their stuff is overrated, and I respect that, but I've been trying to use their line to at least find what TYPE of rubber I should use, then find a better version from another company like 729, Stiga, etc.
If you're still with me . . .
What should I do?
I am moving back to China in September of 2008, and plan to play competitively. I want to go back there with all cylinders clicking.
Please give me any advise you can.
Grip?
Rubber(s)?
HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!

Step 1: Get a coach.

Step 2: Get rid of your bad habits.

Step 3: Get rid of your company loyalty, it does no good for you.

not all rubbers are suited for everybody playing style. figure out whats your strong points and build from there

try v stage for fh, and euro rubbers (magnas and almana) are good for fast attacks

as you describe yourself you are an allrounder.
Try any combination of reverse or sp (reverse both sides, or sp both sides) avoid lp or anti untill you have a style. Play orthodox sh or ph in pref to seemuller unless you find it deeply compelling

Hurricane
and 802-40
are good chinese revers and sp rubbers

In the end the man is more important than the equipment

Correct.  Seemiller grip gives you a great blocking game and an ability to wrist short balls w/bh easier than conventional shakehand grip.  Since most Seemiller grip players use primarily one side to hit with, they usually have a much different rubber on the other side for change.  A lot of them use anti.  You can do well at the intermediate levels with this grip.  Seemiller himself might be the only one to make to the US elite level with this grip.  You do get exposed as you move to mid distance - harder to cover angled shots to corners.  I occasionally use a Seemiller backhand when I expect a LP player to give me a no-spin serve - easier for me to hit through the ball.

Please tell me if this idea makes any sense. It should because I based it on some good sources! :-).
1.Get some good, basic rubber that has speed+control for FH.
2. Get something more defensive for chop+slice on the BH.
3. Get a coach and/or get free advice along the way.
4. Learn Shakehand.
5. Keep the Seemiller as my secret defensive weapon to switch to during a game.

Rubbers: I will stick with the DHS and Friendship/729 for rubbers until I figure out what is the best type for me.

Question: g-666 on FH (Many say it's like H3, but more "feel" and something else on BH . . . not sure what yet, but it needs to be good for pushing, blocking, slicing, and chopping.

It's funny, the combination you suggest is the basic configuration that nearly every store bought combo paddle comes equiped with. I'm not critizing you. I'm just laughing at myself that perhaps my quest for the perfect combination will end up what every beginner buys. I guess I have to take comfort in the fact that I would be upgrading the quality of the 2 rubbers. :-).
Thank you.

Q: if I don't go with a pips out, what would you suggest as the best pips in variation from an H3 or H2 or g-666?

Quite frankly unless you feel like speedgluing none of them are that good, they'll do ok without it but nothing special. Since you're used to hard sponges I'd say go for the old 729s or the 999s if you're customing the sponge.

What is the best CHINESE rubber for Speed and Control?
What company?
DHS?
Friendship/729?
Other?